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What is the Key to Seduction with Women?

What's goin on guys, Scotty here.  Been a while since I've posted.  Been running around like a chicken with my head cut off these days.

A lot of guys are hung up on the idea of attraction and seduction and the fact that there must be a key to success.

Something out there that people are just not telling them.  If you're looking for that missing key, keep reading, this might be a bit of a wake up call.

Firstly, there is no magic bullet.

This is a hard one for some guys to understand.  There must be something they know that I don't your saying.

Well... yes and no.  Yes, meaning they know that they have to put themselves out there, display confidence and assertiveness to the point where they are almost indifferent about that situation.  No as in they do this instinctively.  If you ask a guy who's naturally good with women why he's so good, you'll generally get a "just be yourself" or just be "confident."

That doesn't really do us a lot of good.

WTF is confidence anyway?  You know you should have it, how does it have so much bearing in seducing a georgous woman?

Confidence is your inner world, expressed outerly.  It's your idea of how things work and how things are. 

The beliefs you hold in your head manifest outwardly.

For example, if you are constantly telling yourself your not good at picking up women, it's a self fulfilling proficy. On the other hand, think about something you're great at.  Something you know your great at and when you think about it, it only impowers you.  You become better and better.  This is the power of the mind.

Back on track, in order to be confident one must dicard all the negativity and negative self talk associated with being unsuccessful with women.  While doing this, you must add positive, empowering beliefs to help you become more confident with women and in life.

Here is a great article on how to project confidence: http://ca.askmen.com/scent/attraction/top-10-tips-to-project-confidence.html, have a read over it.

You make or break your success with how you think, start controlling your mind.

Scott

Become a Dating Machine with Women

If you're at all interested in becoming a dating wrecking machine keep reading.  I am going to give you a complete summary on how to kick ass and take names when it comes to women and dating.

Trying to learn how to meet new women isn't overly complex.  Guys like to overcomplicate things a lot.  I don't know where guy's testicles have gone, but they have seem to misplace them in the last 15  years.  It’s time to grow a pair and start meeting women today.

First off, abandon the pua lines.  Scripted stuff tends to make men over think things and takl too quickly.  Have an idea, a general one, about what you're going to say - that's all.  Be natural about it, if you look like you're trying too hard she'll feel it.

This is a book I found extremely helpful when I first started out, it's called Double your Dating by David DeAngelo - take a second now and read this Double Your Dating Review.

Becoming a natural at seducing girls can be achieved with a lot of effort and quite a bit of practice.  I will note that rejection is inevitable, so get used to it.  Ingrain the idea of rejection in your brain - everyone gets it.  The more you get rejected the more success you will have.

Next, quit being such a nice guy.  As the saying goes, nice guys finish last.  The nice act is what gets you into the friend zone.  Avoid this at all cost.  We want to get in her bed.  Fot that reason, we’re going to do the complete opposite of what regular guys do.  We’re going to be cocky, arrogant, funny, charming, playful and the list goes on.  Often your average joe is pretty one dimensional, meaning he never changes things up - it's not exciting to be around him.

Approach anxiety happens to everyone you’re not special.  Your skill set and fear of meeting new women will be minimal if you just start approaching 1 girl a day and build on that from there.  AA will slowly minimize if you do this and take action.  Don’t approach 30 women a day and hope to be fantastic right out of the gate.  More harm than good will come out of this and you will be sick of women, rejection and dating before you get started.  Begin by approaching a few girls and steadily build up from there.

Being dominant is a major part of success with women.  Nice guys are weak and submissive - don't be that guy.  The guy who gets the girl is confident and in control.  This means you have to be sure of yourself.  If you try and fake it you'll lose.  Girls and see right through it.  You need to believe with 100% confidence that you are the man.

Looking great and being confident go hand in hand.  You're not going to look your best or anywhere near it if you look horrible?  Becoming a fashionista isn't manditory, but taking some time to look good is crucial.  Have your shoes match your belt.  If it's in style and it fits you well, wear it.  You don’t have to be trendy by any means.  It can take some time, but find a brand of clothing that really suites your bodystyle.

Now, do looks matter is a question that comes up a lot with ?  I am going to say yes, they do, but it's more in how you display yourself.  In terms of genetics, being naturally good looking helps but when women say they want a good looking guy they're really referring to his style.  What factors come into play then: are you in shape, are you well dressed, are you hygienic .

Men today are getting larger by the minute. If you really want it you can get in shape and become proud of your body.  Better yet, get down to your local gym and start getting your butt in shape today, if not for the ladies, do it for yourself.  I won't bore you with the great benefits of exercise and a fantastic nutrition plan though.

As a final point, get out there make friends and meet new people.  The best way to learn and attract women quickly is to experience it first hand.  Nobody's saying you'll become don juan overnight, but you can become great with women if you just start taking action.

 

The Tao of Badass - Josh Pellicer

First and foremost, Happy New Year guys.  Wanted to take a second to talk to you about The Tao of Badass.  Pay attention those of you who haven't heard of this.  Out of all the courses out there, this is one of the few worth checking out.  The author behind this manual is Josh Pellicer, who has a fairly impressive resume when it come to teaching men about women and attraction.

What the hell is The Tao of Badass anyway?  It's basically a guide - sign posts used to help you pick up and date more women.  This is a full system well lay'd out put together to help you go from not knowing a woman - to sex... and potentially more.  For those of you who like set routines and examples this may not be the most beneficial book for you.

Here's a great review on the product click here to read it.

Gender roles in chapter two is one of my favorite parts of this program.  There are some fantastic insights in this section and a lot of material that other dating products fail to cover.  Men and women both play a role, this is the basis, if both play the same role, or a role gets reversed - the relationship won't work.  Josh goes a heck of a lot deeper, that was just a quick overview of the topic.

In terms of approaching women, if you can completely comprehend what's being said you will not need to use a canned routine or pre-thought of material again.  How does that sound?  

What more is offered in Josh's course?  Body language, confidence, tests, relationships and the most common mistakes men make… just to name a few.

My recommendation is that if you’re serious about changing and improving yourself, give this course a chance and check it out - it might be just what you need.

Hit me up with your feedback.

Scott

How to get Her Number

Hey guys, Scott here, just wanted to talk to you quickly about how to get a girls number.

Some of you guys love to make things harder than it needs to be.  I often have guys asking me how do I continue interactions with women I meet?  How do I get her number without getting rejected?  And many more questions like this.

My answer is generally as follows:

Firstly, getting a girls number is not difficult.  To continue an interaction with a woman you have just met you will  need to exchange a means of communication - this is often the phone number.

Don't be scared to ask for it, depending on your confidence levels you can almost tell her to give it to you - and done in a positive way - she will often comply.

"Hey, I gotta get going, lets I'll shoot you a message later, what's your number?"

That's all it takes to get her number.  It's that simple.

The second part I get a lot from guys is "what if she doesn't give it to me?"

Honestly, it's her loss.  Having a strong identity and knowing that you're a fun, enjoyable person to be around with lots to give will give you the confidence to view it as her loss if she doesn't comply.

There will be a dozen more women you will go meet in the next hour - if she doesn't seem interested - someone else will be.

That's all there is to it regarding getting a womans phone number,

Talk soon,

Scott

Attracting Women - Is There A Secret

A common question when talking about relationships and dating is: Is there a secret to attracting women?  Let's have a quick look.

For those of you who are perplexed when it comes to the area of picking up and seducing girls I have some very good news for you - there is one thing, that if focused on correctly, will drastically amplify your success with women.

There are so many different variables to being successful with women, it’s at times difficult to know where to begin.  The approach is the first logical step.  Something to say to break the ice is common when guys first start learning how to meet women.  They also want to know exactly what to say to build attraction.  There's a common theme here, are you seeing it?  You want techniques and routines.  Little do they know lines and routines will not solve their problem.

Here’s the secret to attracting women: change your mindset.  

If that was a disappointment for you then alas you are not ready to really progress when it comes to women and dating.  Soon you will be.  You must train yourself to start believing that it's YOU that attracts women and not magic lines.  Untill you understand this you will not achieve the success you're capable of.

Mental adjustment number one: this is regarding being good enough.  Most men don’t feel they're good enough.  They don’t think they’re in the same class when it comes to beautiful women.  Get this balogna out of you mind right now.

It's difficult at times, but I try and view everyone as equal.  However, if I need a boost in confidence I will actually invision myself above everybody else.  Is it egotistical?  Perhaps, but I don't treat other people badly because of it and it's able to give me a boost in confidence and energy.  In order to do this I list all the positive qualities about myself in my head.  The list might include things like: my outlook on life, business, friends, intellect, goals, and skills just to name a few.  This can boost my mental state significantly if I start doubting myself and who I am at any point.

The next key to keep in mind is even the best guys don’t succeed all the time.  If you think the guys that are successful with women are batting 100 you’re out of your mind.  These guys fail as much and sometimes more than your average joe.  How come?  Because they put themselves out there.  They know nothing can be lost by approaching or meeting new people.  Lack of success is not considered failure, but a learning experience.

Know this by itself is enough to get guys over the hump they're stuck on.  My follow up question for you is: do you think these guys really care?  After a while interactions are not taken to heart as anything other than a feedback.  Being nervous or scared is not part of the plan, there are potential relationships and people to meet - this is exciting.

Identity is the final point I want to talk to you about.  Things are viewed differently when you have a strong identity.  What you tolerate will be set in stone.  Your beliefs will be grounded and there will be very little room for margin.  Guys who are good with women know this is very important.  Many men will let girls walk all over them.  If you are one of the guys who bend over backwards to accommodate women you need to stop.  If you stop doing this you will notice a change in how people act around you.  You may encounter some initial resistance at first but after a while people will start to accept that you’re not a push over.  

I want you to take a second and really think about where the foundation of success lies when it comes to attracting women.  It's not magic routines or special lines as you will quickly realize.  It lies in your mindset and the confidence you have in yourself.

So is there a secret when it comes to attracting women - there is, and it starts with you.

 

To your success,

Scott

Pick Up Girls - How To Succeed With Women

Hi guys, this is going to be a quick post on how to pick up girls.  There are a large number of aspects of picking up women we can cover, the list is almost endless.  Our focus for this post is where to find women.  If you're not looking in the right spots - you're probability of success vastly decreases.

First, think about new venues to meet women at.  The common bars, clubs and parties are ok - but there are better places.

In bars and clubs females are often there to socialize, get drunk and massage their ego.  They enjoy when men approach them but they find it fun to blow them off too (not in the good way) - even if they might be curious in you.

So exactly where do we find interesting women that we can actually get a conversation in with?  Anywhere else.

I actually like the downtown core where there's lots of women.  Starbucks is great.  I'll meet people on transit systems if I am not driving.  You name it. 

Approaching in the daytime has a couple upsides, namely, women are not on high alert for men.  You will often catch them off guard when you approach within the the day.  You game has to be spot on, and you cannot falter.  You must approach and convey confidence.

Approach, get the number and go on.  This is how it's done.  That's how we pick up women.
Succeeding with women is a great deal easier than you think, you just need to consider the most viable location for achieving success.  Sometimes it's the places you think of least.

Listen guys, you have what it takes to be successful with women and dating, you just need to start  believing it. Want to know if a girl likes you? Check our other post to find out how to know if a girl likes you.

To your success,

Scott

Does She like Me - How to tell If a Girl Likes You

Stop wondering whether or not she likes you! STOP IT.

I am going to kick this off with a question tons of guys ask.  Does she like me?

The short answer is simple - it doesn't matter.  Even if she likes your appearance, it won't be enough to get you anywhere.  She could think your the best looking guy in the world and still not approach you.

In women's mind it's our job to approach.  That's fine.  Most guys won't do it, or they'll screw it up.  One of the two.

Here's the plan: approach like she already likes you.

Yup, go in there with the idea that as long as you go in confident, start a conversation and don't trip over your feet or say something way out of left field - she will be attracted to you.

It's this kind of unshakable confidence that's attractive to women.

Lesson one: act as if she already likes you.

More to come.

Your friend,

Scott

Your Source for Attracting Women

What's going on gentlemen... and ladies, you never know ;)

This is going to be my little spot where I share some great idea's, tips and advice on how to improve yourself and your relationships with others - especially the opposite sex.

This is my attraction blog.

Stay tuned, we're going to be covering some great stuff regarding attraction and seduction.

Your friend,

Scott